Waiting...

Well, we have been waiting for 7 months now.  The time seems to just fly by as you continue to live life.  Our worker says that the average wait time for placement for most people is 1 to 5 years, I believe that now!

Over these past 7 months we have had the opportunity to get to know our worker more, read a few books, attend a few additional training sessions and learn more about the waiting process.

What I did not expect or maybe I should say was "not prepared for" is the emotional rollercoaster this process is.  One thing that community services does well is they do not sugar coat anything, they are upfront and real about wait times, and the chances of being selected out of a group of people who are all in the same boat.  A few months ago our file was put forward for a child, we were told that many files were being put forward and ours would not be selected but we went through the motions anyway, a month passed and we were notified that they were still trying to match and asked if our we would like our file to be put forward for a second time.  Immediately we went from being told that there was no shot to "your file may be looked at now", so we agreed and after another month we were notified that the child has found their forever home.  

We definitely rode the emotional rollercoaster in this situation but what we learned from that experience is that we cannot think that every time we receive notification that our file is being put forward that maybe this will be the time for us.  We have decided to just go with the flow and when the time is right our perfect child will be waiting for us!

It is almost Christmas and maybe next year will be our year!